tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7888073550234024219.post1063330174436513219..comments2023-12-28T12:02:47.825-08:00Comments on Iampase: DOES AGREEING TO GO ON A DATE WITH SOMEONE MEAN YOU ARE INTERESTED IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THE PERSON?I Am Pasehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10956338295561862907noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7888073550234024219.post-22556661626755651912017-08-31T08:37:46.661-07:002017-08-31T08:37:46.661-07:00Interesting topic I must say. I will like to itemi...Interesting topic I must say. I will like to itemise three factors that can lead to this kind of issue. <br />1. Level of maturity of the man(boy)<br />2. The vibe created by the girl IE green light. <br />3. The intention of the man(boy).<br /><br />Dates are supposed to be an avenue to bound, know if there is chemistry and also know the character of the individual a bit while you have fun and make memories. Its not a time to propose relationship or friendship. The best friendship or relationship proposal are done in actions and the response also in action and then you can ask the question with ease knowing that you will not suffer rejection. Even if there is rejection, you will get cogent reason for such rejection and friendship will be preserved even with such rejection. <br /><br />Advise:<br />( For girls).......<br /> In our African society, women tend to believe a man is supposed to be the provider, no matter the level of the man and that's one problem. You can't have a 'boy' still under his parents or guardian and you expect him to provide you things even your father will not do for you and when your father can provide such, Will think twice or even question you what for.<br />It is normal For a guy interested in a lady to want to prove his worth by wanting to present her with gifts or take her on date. In same vain, a woman can also show a guy that the gift you are giving me is great and I can also do that for myself. <br />All this depends on the guy you are dealing with. <br />If it's a student, Don't let him take you where he will break the bank IE get broke after the date. Show him you know the value of money and you won't want to waste money unnecessarily. Show something more than just wanting to go out. Even if he is the arrogant type that like to show off, show some real woman value. Women are known to preserve and save. <br />You can also show your worth by covering at least 5 percent of the bill. It's show you are not dependant. <br /><br />Secondly, Do not give a man or boy who you can see is head over heels signal of interest until you get to know him. That does not mean be rude. If he is coming very hard, slow him down by telling him "I don't even know you yet". Let his mental Faculty be constantly reminded that you two don't know yourselves well yet.<br />You need to make the rule clear from beginning and be firm in your words and actions. Do not lead him on by giving green light. <br />Men have alot of ego. They don't like rejection. No body does actually both men and women.<br />When you set boundaries, the man will never feel rejected, he will only take it as a challenge and will do more to provide himself and show he actually wants the woman. All that depends on if you have something to offer which he can't find any where else. You can't be empty and add no value and expect a man with value.<br />Refusal or withdrawal after giving a green light will only get a lady enenmity and sometimes even hate rape. <br />Be careful of your actions and inactions. <br /><br />(For the men)..... <br />Expecting a relationship after a date or numerous dates is just childish. It totally shows you have other motives. If a man really wants a woman, he will take time to know her and know if she fits his personality and the kind of person he wants to be with. <br />A matured man will always want a woman who he will have something valuable with, even if it eventually did not end in marriage, he would have been able to make a good impact in her life. Unless he wants to hit and run (just for sex).<br />Show a woman your real self, care love and respect, you will have her loyalty for ever... Well that is if someone with better value does not show up in her life, then you will be the king of her world. <br />Don't always think of sex or talk about sex. It's a no go area. The more it comes up, the more the woman will question what you are actually after.<br /><br />General it all depends on maturity of the individuals, the intention and the self value of the parties involved. <br /><br />By, secret number one fan...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com